Sexual Healing Resources
How Sex Can Repair Attachment Deprivation
All of us were deprived of the full on attachment with our mothers because of the society we live in. Babies need to stay in contact with their mother, the body they came out of, in order to attach well. It took attachment theory research to get hospitals to allow this to happen, in contrast […]
Avoiding Sexual Shame
In my Transformational Novel, Sex From the Man’s Point of View, Matt gets off to a bad start in his love life, and then discovers a college teacher who explains how sexual shame interferes with the loving use of sex. In this excerpt the men’s therapy group discusses sexual shame, and how “dirty sex” functions […]
Great Sex, Little Love
A myth running through our culture is that if the sex is amazing, the relationship must be good. Or at least, could become good. But no. Some people who are “Avoidantly Attached” in their lives are able to step forward and claim a real connection with the vehicle of sex. A temporary connection. Haven’t you […]
Let’s Talk About Sex
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/003-cnl-podcast-lets-talk-about-sex.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (34.5MB)SEXUAL SHAME INHIBITS OPEN, INFORMATIVE CONVERSATION Have you noticed that when sex is talked about openly people feel uncomfortable? This is because of sexual shame. Many layers have been delivered from the time we were born. I hold classes to help people remove this embarrassment and shame so […]
6 Tips for a Healthy Sex Life
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/010-cnl-podcast-6-tips-for-a-healthy-sex-life.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (38.8MB)Six Tips for Creating a Healthy Sex Life Tip 1. Talking. With partner, or with others if not in relationship or dating. Introducing conversation will allow you to bring down the shame associated with talking about sex in an open, non-erotic way. People who have difficulty can’t talk about […]
Healing Sexual Problems
Are you interested in a videoconference therapy group? I wrote Reclaiming Healthy Sexual Energy: Revised to help individuals and couples heal their sexuality. You can start there, at Amazon, and then decide what you would like to do next. If sexual abuse, or arguments about sex are your focus, therapy can help. If addiction is […]
Bring Sex and Love Together, The Value of Healing Sexual Shame
My Transformational Fiction novel number four is up on Kindle! I really enjoyed writing this book, as my character, Grace, was so able to learn about sexual distortions, and give voice to a marvelous understanding of sexual shame and the “shame compartment.” It was quite an experience for me to be amazed at what she […]