Podcasts
Let’s Talk About Sex
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/003-cnl-podcast-lets-talk-about-sex.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (34.5MB)SEXUAL SHAME INHIBITS OPEN, INFORMATIVE CONVERSATION Have you noticed that when sex is talked about openly people feel uncomfortable? This is because of sexual shame. Many layers have been delivered from the time we were born. I hold classes to help people remove this embarrassment and shame so […]
Sexual Scanning of People & Body Parts
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/008-cnl-podcast-scan-lust.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (36.9MB)When he or she looks at others as if you aren’t even present. Having compassion for men who sexually scan may seem to be incompatible with our cultural shaming of men who do this. But it isn’t just an eye candy thing where they lift their energy a […]
6 Tips for a Healthy Sex Life
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/010-cnl-podcast-6-tips-for-a-healthy-sex-life.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (38.8MB)Six Tips for Creating a Healthy Sex Life Tip 1. Talking. With partner, or with others if not in relationship or dating. Introducing conversation will allow you to bring down the shame associated with talking about sex in an open, non-erotic way. People who have difficulty can’t talk about […]
Shaming Prevents Taking Responsibility
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/007-cnl-podcast-shame-responsibility.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (33.4MB)SHAME IS OUR WORST ENEMY WHEN WISHING TO LEAD A LIFE OF INTEGRITY Shame, that dreadful emotion that includes feeling badly about oneself, or believing that we have been harmful, is actually a horrible obstacle to taking responsibility for what we have done and setting out to correct […]
When Arguments Go Circular
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/001-cnl-podcast-circular-arguments.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (31.8MB)BACK AND FORTH, AROUND AND AROUND – HOPELESS A big issue for couples are these arguments where the shaming goes around and around. One starts, the second responds in kind. First is one example, and then the kinds of circular arguments. Shame and defensiveness is the cause of […]
Is Conforming a Good Thing or a Bad Thing?
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/002-cnl-podcast-conformist.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (36.4MB)IS CONFORMING GOOD? The answer is: it can be a good thing, supportive of community, as long as you don’t sacrifice in order to conform. It can be harmful to you when done to avoid feelings of shame, of not fitting in, and wanting to be “good.” Conforming […]
The Wrong Side of the Bed – Make Use of a Bad Day
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/013-cnl-podcast-wrong-side-of-the-bed.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (35.5MB)You may be feeling good enough about life that you don’t need psychotherapy, yet you might occasionally feel really badly without knowing why. Perhaps you know that it will soon pass, or by the next day, and so you wait it out. But it doesn’t feel good. I would like […]
Your Siblings Loved You and Hated You Too
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/004-cnl-podcast-siblings.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (25.0MB)SIBLING RELATIONSHIPS CAN IMPACT LOVE RELATIONSHIPS, TOO. The emotions, conflicts, and relating styles can be projected onto lovers in the same way they are from relationships with parents. This may greatly broaden your source of information. When recovering from addiction, childhood trauma, difficult marriages, and depression, parenting has […]
Why is Avoidant Attachment So Hard to Stop?
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/005-cnl-podcast-avoidant-attachment.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (28.9MB)Avoiding others and not attaching is designed to make us feel secure. Odd, isn’t it? We have to take a look at how avoiding attachment actually did serve us at one point, and how it no longer does. But let me say that there are ways! Elizabeth Wedington […]
Online Dating Advice and Tips
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/009-cnl-podcast-online-dating-advice-and-tips.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (40.6MB)ONLINE DATING, REALLY? YES. Millions of people are looking for love on dating sites. What makes it hard to find a person you would want to date on these sites? How can you narrow it down, omitting those who will be a waste of time? First of all, […]