Men’s Sexuality Resources
PORNOGRAPHY – addiction, erectile dysfunction, & shame
So many young men ages 18 to 21 can’t get erections with a partner or they lose the ones they get. Yikes! Why is that? Perhaps it’s because boys and men from 12 to 21 have the highest rate of downloading porn. They suffer the consequences of seeing that kind of “sex,” think that is […]
Women Shame Men And We Can’t See It!
Women shame men, and it is woven so completely into our culture that few can see the subtle examples. Commercials put men down and build up women, as she comments on how stupid he is being. When writing a chapter in Create New Love: How Men and Women can Prepare for a Lasting Relationship, I […]
“Dirty Talk.” Does it Really Make Sex Hot?
People have a really hard time talking openly and comfortably about sex. When I ask a new couple to tell me about their sexual relating, they not only stumble, they actually don’t know how to answer. The words don’t come easily. In contrast, everyone knows how to talk dirty. Not that everyone desires it, but […]
Why We See Sex as Dirty, Nasty, in the Gutter, Naughty….
Odd how everyone agrees that sex belongs in the gutter, when we call it love making. Men are more socially required to see it this way in order to override their sexual inhibitions and remain lustful. Women are less likely to go to the sexual gutter, and as the good, pure gender, don’t have to. […]
Why Are Twenty Year Olds Using Viagra!
Are you a man who can’t get naturally aroused with your partner? Are you the partner of a man who can’t get naturally aroused with you? Young men, in their twenties can become unable to become aroused when with a woman they care for. Viagra is becoming normal for them, and doesn’t work for many. […]
Are Men the Bad Gender and Women the Good Gender?
Women have seen men as the lucky ones – making more money, being in control, etc. But men, in a more hidden way, are seen as the bad gender and women the good gender. This interferes with men and women being in relationship. It goes like this: Women shame men. We often don’t know it […]
When We Say, “All They Want is Sex,” We Harm Men
It is generally believed that men need lots of sex, that they think about it all the time, that they value looking at sexy women, and divide women into body parts. They are seen as dirty, lustful and inappropriate. Then they are criticized for being this way. Men are defined as sexually shameful. Purely by […]
Why do Jokes, Innuendo, Sex Clubs and Porn Make Some Men More Comfortable?
Men, when you exchange sexual innuendos, or tell sexual jokes, or go out to sex clubs with other men, maybe even internet porn sites, does it allow you to feel more comfortable? More normal? When you carry shame about your sexuality, operating with others can allow you to step out of the shame. I call […]
Sexual Scanning of People & Body Parts
http://www.annestirlinghastings.com/wp-content/uploads/008-cnl-podcast-scan-lust.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download (36.9MB)When he or she looks at others as if you aren’t even present. Having compassion for men who sexually scan may seem to be incompatible with our cultural shaming of men who do this. But it isn’t just an eye candy thing where they lift their energy a […]