Men’s Issues
Therapy and Meditation Groups
I have found that combining group therapy with the ideas and guided meditations of Dr. Joe Dispenza greatly increases the benefits. Groups meet for 2.5 hours which allows time for a 40 minute meditation guided by Dr. Joe. Each member will have read most of one of his books so everyone understands that we begin […]
Narcissism – Meditate it Away
Have you been told that you are narcissistic? Perhaps by a partner, or an adult child? Maybe people at work? Even a therapist? You want to protest. “No, wait, that isn’t me.” But at the same time, you would rather do what you want, go to restaurants you prefer, engage with others only when it […]
Meditate Out of Avoidant Attachment
You have discovered that avoidant attachment leaves you feeling alone, maybe even depressed. You feel the need to pull away from others in order to keep a sense of yourself. True to yourself. But it can be lonely. Meditation offers a way to begin a healing change process while maintaining the avoidant style. Don’t make […]
PORNOGRAPHY – addiction, erectile dysfunction, & shame
So many young men ages 18 to 21 can’t get erections with a partner or they lose the ones they get. Yikes! Why is that? Perhaps it’s because boys and men from 12 to 21 have the highest rate of downloading porn. They suffer the consequences of seeing that kind of “sex,” think that is […]
Women Shame Men And We Can’t See It!
Women shame men, and it is woven so completely into our culture that few can see the subtle examples. Commercials put men down and build up women, as she comments on how stupid he is being. When writing a chapter in Create New Love: How Men and Women can Prepare for a Lasting Relationship, I […]
“Dirty Talk.” Does it Really Make Sex Hot?
People have a really hard time talking openly and comfortably about sex. When I ask a new couple to tell me about their sexual relating, they not only stumble, they actually don’t know how to answer. The words don’t come easily. In contrast, everyone knows how to talk dirty. Not that everyone desires it, but […]
Why We See Sex as Dirty, Nasty, in the Gutter, Naughty….
Odd how everyone agrees that sex belongs in the gutter, when we call it love making. Men are more socially required to see it this way in order to override their sexual inhibitions and remain lustful. Women are less likely to go to the sexual gutter, and as the good, pure gender, don’t have to. […]
Why do Jokes, Innuendo, Sex Clubs and Porn Make Some Men More Comfortable?
Men, when you exchange sexual innuendos, or tell sexual jokes, or go out to sex clubs with other men, maybe even internet porn sites, does it allow you to feel more comfortable? More normal? When you carry shame about your sexuality, operating with others can allow you to step out of the shame. I call […]
Why Are Twenty Year Olds Using Viagra!
Are you a man who can’t get naturally aroused with your partner? Are you the partner of a man who can’t get naturally aroused with you? Young men, in their twenties can become unable to become aroused when with a woman they care for. Viagra is becoming normal for them, and doesn’t work for many. […]
Are Men the Bad Gender and Women the Good Gender?
Women have seen men as the lucky ones – making more money, being in control, etc. But men, in a more hidden way, are seen as the bad gender and women the good gender. This interferes with men and women being in relationship. It goes like this: Women shame men. We often don’t know it […]