Blog Posts
Why do Jokes, Innuendo, Sex Clubs and Porn Make Some Men More Comfortable?
Men, when you exchange sexual innuendos, or tell sexual jokes, or go out to sex clubs with other men, maybe even internet porn sites, does it allow you to feel more comfortable? More normal? When you carry shame about your sexuality, operating with others can allow you to step out of the shame. I call […]
Preparing For A Lasting Relationship
I have presented lots of information on the complicated, and powerful process in my book, Create New Love: How Men and Women can Prepare for a Lasting Relationship. You can buy the print version or the Kindle edition from Amazon. Create New Love: The Course, and Create New Love: The Workbook are available at CreateNewLove.com. […]
Are You Shy Or Introverted?
Do you hate to go to parties, even if you know people there? Do you hate parties where you know no one? Do you wish to get home where life is predictable and ordinary? When beginning conversation, do you worry about what to say? Have you avoided interesting experiences because you knew you would be […]
Support Of Others
Do you feel alone and isolated even when around others? Do you limit the amount of contact you have, and prefer to spend time by yourself? Do you wonder why it doesn’t feel supportive and enlivening to talk about what is going on with you? Do you have a lot of friends, but don’t talk about important […]
Transparency
We all want to be seen, to be known. We all want to be able to see and know the others in our lives. Our feelings, wishes, desires, excitements, joys. All of it. Who we are as individuals, with our own combination of attitudes, feelings, traits and interests. Our gifts. Yet the degree of fear, […]
Telling The Truth
Alienation and separation from others is supported by the cultural belief that we should present ourselves well, and not tell each other when that isn’t going well. WHY NOT TELL? When I sat in Starbucks writing this I overheard an older couple talking with a man around forty. The man appeared to be of low intelligence, or […]
Discovering Integrity
We were all raised with the lies of our culture. Most of us were raised with additional lies of our families. None of us were shown what is real and true, and what integrity is all about. I don’t mean integrity in a moral sense of right and wrong. I mean it as knowing what […]
What Do You Need?
1. Do you feel badly about yourself, or about what you have done? You may want to address your feelings of shame. I wrote a whole book on how to recognize it, and how to stop taking it on. 2. Are you having issues with your sexuality? Conflicts in your relationship, porn, Internet, masturbation, affairs? […]
Gather Together To Heal Faster
While the purpose of the meetings is to educate regarding the five arenas of healing, and to practice skills that can bring about healing and connection, just as important is the nature of the acceptance of all. In the Gatherings you get to be with other people, and still be yourself. If you are excited […]
Replace Cultural Deceptions With The Truth
The feeling of alienation that so many people live with comes from adapting to a culture that is fraught with made up love, happiness and joy. All around us are avoiding their shame, and helping others avoid theirs. No one wants to create conflict, and see others react negatively to us. Do you find yourself […]