Bring Sex and Love Together, The Value of Healing Sexual Shame

My Transformational Fiction novel number four is up on Kindle! I really enjoyed writing this book, as my character, Grace, was so able to learn about sexual distortions, and give voice to a marvelous understanding of sexual shame and the “shame compartment.” It was quite an experience for me to be amazed at what she said when she explained things to her lover, and to her women’s group. She did a better job than I ever have! I am coming to see that writing fiction is a much better way for me to offer information to people than writing self help books. The reader gets to be entertained while being informed. He or she can read for either purpose, and perhaps get both.

Sexual Shame is a complicated experience, as each of us and the whole culture attend to how we avoid it than how we experience it. Many of us have learned how to override it, and others are unable to and lose interest, or want very little sex. Porn and fantasy, are used to override shame, and it often prevents the person from being present with their loved one. Endless media articles are written about how to make sex hot, but rarely do you read how to remove the obstacles to finding hot sex all on your own. Grace and her lover, Richard have learned how to do this. It takes time, but even in the process of removing shame, they get to have the intimate experience of doing it together. Transparency, becoming able to talk openly about sex and shame, and a commitment to keep their sexuality with just each other exploded onto my computer screen. I’m one of those writers who doesn’t know what is going to happen until it does. I have to keep writing to learn what happens next!